You need to know what today’s single woman wants and
must provide it without sounding phony. The following are some
common mistakes men make when dating that turn women off:
1. When talking to or about single women, are you still living
back in the dating dark ages and calling them babes, broads,
chicks, or something even more repulsive?
Always call a woman by her name! If you use these other terms, you will insult
every woman around you.
2. When out on a date, do you spend all of your time eyeing
other women in the bar, nightclub, or restaurant? Don’t even think for a minute that she won’t
notice. She will not only notice, but may be so turned off by your behavior that
she may never want to see you again. Always focus all of your undivided attention
on the woman you’re with. Treat her like a princess, and she is far more
likely to make you her prince.
3. Another common mistake men make early in a relationship
with a single woman is being too sexually aggressive. This
kind of behavior can frighten women
and turn them off. No one likes a stranger pawing at their bodies and making
overtures. Get to know her first. After you are comfortable with each other,
then you you can make your physical moves.
4. When talking to a woman, do find yourself concentrating
totally on her breasts? This is a real no-no! Always look
women in the eyes when talking to them. Believe
me, if all you can do is stare at her breasts, she will catch on to it and
will ditch you as soon as possible. Women don’t like men who constantly stare
at their breasts. In a topless club it’s OK, but not when you have just
met a woman or are in the early stages of dating.
5. If a woman wants to be independent, let her. For instance,
if she wants to change her own flat tire, let her. If she
wants to open her own door, let
If she wants to order her own food or wine, let her. Let her assert her independence.
It will make a good impression on her. You’re making a big mistake if
you want to control the relationship all the time and not let her be independent,
if this is what she desires.
6. Some misguided men think it’s sexy and cool to brag about what a great
lover they have been to their other girlfriends. They talk about getting high
on drugs, or how well they can hold their liquor. You are not impressing women
with this. As a matter a fact, they will probably find that you are obnoxious,
juvenile, and potentially dangerous.
In closing, if you are making any of these dating blunders,
or worse, if any of these are your habititual behaviors,
correct them immediately. I hate to
keep pounding this into your head, but if you turn women off, you are stacking
odds against your successfully meeting, dating, attracting, and seducing single
Editor’s note: Copyright (c) 2005 by Don Diebel, who bills himself as “America’s
No. 1 Singles Expert.” For more free dating tips on how to successfully
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