It has become less of a faux pas
to meet a potential suitor via the World Wide Web. There are
warnings that try to prevent people from meeting face-to-face
with someone that initially was found on the Internet. This
is because one never knows the true identity of the other person.
However, the skepticism remain—can romances spurred by
blogging and commenting sustain the test of time as well or
better then a more conventional dating arrangement?
Many search high and low to find their perfect significant other.
So many people spend all their energy on trying to find a person
that fits their predetermined sketch of “perfection,” while
some settle for “Mr. or Mrs. Right Now” until something
better comes along. Still others continue to be completely immune
to the whole dating idea! Men and woman are so stuck with the
idea of perfection that they may not realize that “Mr.
or Mrs. Right” could be just a click away.
For those who have been forever bruised from that infamous blind
date, Internet dating seems like a godsend. Online dating allows
you to “click” pick who you want to meet. Myspace
and other social-base Web sites allow people to view profiles
from all over the world, contact them, and form a relationship.
Myspace has become a gateway to forming a relationship on a friendly
level and makes meeting new people easier for those who are too
shy to do it face-to-face.
According to Nancy Wesson Ph.D., a relationship counselor, a
relationship has a 75 percent higher chance of lasting if a steady
friendship is built in the beginning when compared to those that
begin with sex.
Myspace gets over 10,000 hits daily and is visited more than
Google and eBay, according to the Trends and Statistic’s
Web site. With the number of people visiting, uploading and blogging,
it is no wonder people have turned to the Web for help in their
personal lives. Not all people go to the Web solely for dating
purposes. According to its tagline, it’s “a place
for friends,” and many use it to talk with friends worldwide
with no intention on finding someone romantically. Nevertheless,
when- ever men and women are involved, there is always a chance
Love, even on Myspace, can come when you do not expect it. Amy
Stanley is a classic case of a college girl that completely detached
from the idea of dating after having disappointment after disappointment.
She would joke about the whole Internet dating idea and swore
she would never turn to the Internet to find a serious boyfriend.
Then in January 2005, she began to exchange comments and messages
back and forth with a fellow Myspace user “CabinBoy,” completely
unaware of the outcome that would follow.
The commenting and blogging continued for almost half a year.
“I always enjoyed his clever philosophical comments about my opinions and
experiences, he made me smile and laugh outloud through text,” said Amy.
The two ironically discovered that they were both members at the same yacht club
in Hawai‘i. Then one Saturday they decided to meet at the yacht club in
I, of course, brought my ‘obligatory’ friend for the first meeting,
after all you don’t know who you’re dealing with when you meet someone
over the Web,” Amy said, “even if they seem friendly and safe, I
wanted to be sure.”
Since then, Amy and Kol Chaney have been inseparable and are currently living
together. They will be celebrating their two year anniversary in a few months. “We
are just like every other couple; we just have a humorous story, however corny
that may seem,” she said. “Some people meet in a bar, I met him on
Myspace. Who’s to say which is safer, a bar or the Web?”